Dating a professional colleague
The reality is that playing emotional detective usually only succeeds at doing one thing: Making the girl go absolutely crazy.My suggestion is rather than trying to “solve the mystery”, assume that things are the way you want them to be. Worrying what the other person thinks usually just creeps them out…I regularly come across people who recognise that they’ve either been in similar types of relationship with same type of person, different package, or that regardless of who they’ve been involved with, they’ve had a pattern of seeing of seeing themselves as ‘less than’, people-pleasing, and accepting crumbs while having little to no boundaries.Each will express their frustrations and have a genuine desire to not go through the same pain again, and yet when I suggest that they take a temporary hiatus from dating and relationships, it’s crickets.
well, that usually leads to them actually liking you!
To answer your question from the information you’ve given me… From what you told me, my read on what you’re trying to figure out is one of three scenarios: a) you want to know that he likes you because knowing someone likes you feels good, b) he is indifferent to you (in the romantic sense), but you and you’re seeing what you want to see, c) you don’t know whether or not he likes you, but you’d be open to starting something with him.
I’m going to go with the assumption that you like him, mainly because if you didn’t, you wouldn’t have asked.
Guillermo Gonzalez for sending me the issue of BAR with the Shroud article last November and encouraging me to act on it.
Stephen Mattingly - Previously unpublished response to the article "A Letter to Hershel Shanks, Editor of BAR" by Dr.